Logistical issues can play a big roll in our ability to heal. It takes time and energy to recover from trauma. If you are working overtime, have a house full of kids who demand all your attention, plus you are dealing with health or relationship issues, there is a good chance you are too exhausted to even think about healing yourself. Releasing pent-up emotions can be exhausting, which could threaten your ability to function at work. It becomes a Catch-22.
Consider creating a plan for healing. Below are some areas to consider. Improvement in even one of these areas can make a huge difference in your healing process. Imbalance or deficiency in any of these areas can add stress to your life, which makes healing more difficult. This information is provided as a guideline to assist you in planning your recovery from trauma. In this endeavor, there is no single recipe that works for everyone. Please proceed with compassion for yourself.
Supporting Your Recovery
Community. Do you have a supportive community of family and friends? Love and friendship are very healing. If you are alone and isolated, healing trauma becomes more difficult. In some cultures, trauma is always considered a community issue. For example, in many Native American tribes, healing traumatized individuals is always addressed with community rituals. Considering finding a community of like-minded people who can support you during your healing.
Emotional Support. You must have compassionate and supportive people in your life, who validate and affirm your experience and emotions. This cannot be underscored enough. Friends who tempt you into your self-destructive behavior do not constitute emotional support. A husband who provides all of your financial needs but thinks your inner work is silly is not emotional support. An emotionally unsupportive spouse may be less of a concern, IF you have ample support from your community, friends, therapists and/or other family members.
A Safe Environment. You must have a safe and private space to do your inner healing work. This space may be in your home or your therapist’s office. Whatever suits your budget and particular circumstances. If you live with toxic family members or friends who are not supportive, you might consider long walks in the park or perhaps a weekend away. If you are surrounded by toxic people, it becomes vital to learn how to create healthy boundaries, which is itself part of the healing process. If you never feel safe, you will become exhausted, and healing requires a lot of energy. So make the choice to create or find your safe space, where you can heal, rest and recover.
Time. Recovering from trauma requires time to do your healing work. If, for example, you are in the middle of an emotional release and have to go to work, your process will be cut off and not completed. The concept that time itself heals all wounds may be true in some circumstances—perhaps if you are living a low-stress life, filled with love, friends and family, then time is all you need. But in today’s world, such a life is uncommon. You may need to create the time, and ask friends and family to support you by respecting your need for personal private time.
Funding. This may seem obvious, but it deserves some deeper consideration. You must have money to sustain you while you take the time to devote to inner work. As a culture, we are conditioned to spend money on expensive toys, clothes, and distractions, while our healing gets ignored or is given low priority. Allocating funds for your healing process may require strict budgeting. Or perhaps you need to sell that old engagement ring. After all, you can’t take it with you when you die, but your inner work will affect the rest of your life. Attempting to heal yourself while experiencing poverty is extremely difficult because poverty is so stressful.
Healing Tools that Actually Work. Today, there are many new modalities, approaches and techniques that are extremely effective. Learn to be a savvy shopper when it comes to choosing healing techniques and practices. Real and fast healing is possible, and it is possible to relieve stress and to release trauma in as little as one session with a trained professional. It is no longer necessary to re-traumatize yourself with endless talk therapy or to simply survive on medications that reduce symptoms without addressing the underlying issue.
It is possible to heal quickly, so don’t settle for less!
It is possible to recover from trauma and feel joy again!
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